I recently attended a course taught by my dear friend John K. Coyle in San Francisco, California.
A little background on why he is extremely qualified to be giving you some life advice: John is the author of “Design for Strengths: Applying Design Thinking to Individual and Team Strengths” and “The Art of Really Living Manifesto.” He’s taught courses on innovation at Marquette University and the CEDIM design school, presented at TEDx, worked with Fortune 500 companies on how to apply design thinking, and provided commentary and analysis for NBC sports. John won a silver medal in speed skating at the 1994 Winter Olympics in Lillehammer, Norway. He is a graduate of Stanford University’s d.school and earned his MBA from Northwestern University’s Kellogg School of Management.
John uses his expertise in innovation and design thinking to attack life’s biggest questions.
He’s discovered that the key to unlocking human potential is to:
Maximize our strengths rather than fixing our weaknesses,
Increasing our personal resilience, and
Expanding our time by creating more meaningful experiences.
I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the small segment he touched on regarding personal resilience, which I felt is extremely important to anyone who is single and feeling stressed out. Take these small steps and I hope you can find the time to really live life to your fullest.
The majority of my clients at Cinqe have high stress levels, and it is usually the stress of their careers which leads them into our service. John K. Coyle has a segment at his workshop on how to increase resilency with his “THREE R’s”
1. Reduce Stress Levels to Allow for Recovery
Defer, delegate, or quit high stress actives.
Reduce stress levels to allow time for your strengths.
Tip: If dating is stressful to you, trying delegating to your local matchmaker. Need a recommendation? Connect with us and we will recommend a Certified Matchmaker in your area for your budget and needs.
2. Recover from Stress
- Physical Intimacy – Petting a dog, or being with a loving partner
- Social Intimacy – being around friends or family
- Low Grade Exercise – taking a walk or a hike
3. Reframe Stress
Gamify the situations – Knowing the stressful event will happen and being prepared with a distraction
Tip: For those who get massive anxiety after a first date on whether or not the person they just met would want a second date, we recommend to keep busy by planning dinners with friends for the next few nights after. The key is to know you will overthink the event, and be prepared with your distractions afterward.
John has a true talent of weaving facts, and intellectual principles into engaging stories which bring his topics to life and really make you think.
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